How to Be with Anger

Rumi once said, “Show me anger and I will show you hurt. Show me hurt and I will show you love. Peel back the layers if you care.” I think of anger like a pot of stew that’s been cooking all day. If you lean in too close when you open the lid and the steam bursts out, you can get burned. And without letting go of the steam, it’s hard to see what is stewing down below. Venting the steam, or letting out the raw anger, is key to being able to effectively communicate what is bubbling up for us.