At our core, we as humans deeply want to belong, and be heard and understood. We want to be seen. So being misunderstood can be incredibly painful. These exercises are like a seatbelt, a structure that we can buckle into, in order to ensure safety in the ride and journey through conflict. Once the turbulence passes, you can unbuckle.

Success to me is not about driving the nice car, having the big house, going on lavish vacations, rather it’s about the depth of the relationships around me. I want to have relationships centered on connection, and I don’t want to sacrifice that for the sake of completing a task. One of my greatest life teachers on this subject has been a horse, not a human.

Roland is a sassy quarter horse, who’s registered name at birth was “tornado kid” if that tells you anything. He had been passed around to several owners until I laid eyes on him, my rescuing archetype kicked in and the rest is history.